Q: We have been living in America for a few years. I have a 17-year-old sister. I think she is having sex with an African-American man. She will not marry this man and I do not know what to do because if our parents find out they will kick her out onto the street since they will feel she has dishonored our family. I love my sister, but at the same time I am upset at how she has abandoned her culture. What should I do?

A:I noticed that you THINK they are having sex. Talk to her about her relationship and ask if she is having sex. If yes, talk to her about safe sex. At age 17, girls think that they know everything, so you need to be as calm and friendly as possible. This is a very difficult situation for you and your sister. Remind her of what is right and wrong in your culture. Talk to her about valuing herself and her body. I wish you the best of luck!