By now COEXISTENCE Digital, you (or “your friends”) have undoubtedly figured out that the correct answer to this riddle is: “Who’s asking?” Chances are, you’ve flawlessly executed countless equally-convincing (and equally- contradictory) responses to this age-old question, annoyingly posed to you now by your shameless Eastern Orthodox in-laws or local imam, the hot girl you met at last week’s concert, the FOBs new to town, or that stuffy college nemesis incessantly trying to prove that you’re an oppressed, closed-minded Middle Easterner. But why such mixed responses for such a personal decision? And what is the right decision these days? Is preserving your ‘honor’ linked to preserving your culture, and do you have a right to keep your sexual activity (or lack thereof) private from prying eyes--even those of the family? Read on and get a clue on what’s best for you by finding out who’s doing what, why, and how in today’s ME community